Living Compassion Tip -- Week 19

Stretch Your Vocabulary-Building Muscle

"In expressing our feelings, it helps to use words that refer to specific emotions, rather than words that are vague or general, says Marshall Rosenberg. "By developing a vocabulary of feelings that allow us to clearly name or identify our emotions, we can connect more easily with one another."

A coworker comes out of a meeting in which she has given a presentation. You ask her how it went. She answers, "I feel good about it." In a feelings vocabulary there are many words less vague than "good" that would more accurately describe this person's emotions. The word "good" could mean "happy," "excited" or possibly "relieved."

It's actually a lot of fun to stretch your vocabulary-building muscle. How often do you use words such as "absorbed," "adventurous," "rapturous," "tranquil," or "mellow" to describe a positive experience? How about when you have a negative experience? Do you possibly feel "aggravated," "bitter," "despondent," "puzzled," or "fidgety"?

Remember, the best way to communicate clearly is to use words that express actual feelings rather than using words and statements that describe thoughts, assessments and interpretations.

Mindful Practice for the Week

Have fun this week stretching your vocabulary-building muscle! Spend your time finding very specific words to describe how you feel. Enjoy your week!